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Mon Jul 8, 2019, 11:03 AM

To end fatphobia, we need to dismantle Western civilization, says Philly therapist Sonalee Rashatwar

Sonalee Rashatwar hadn’t planned on being a therapist growing up. Her career path, she explained while sitting in the waiting room of Radical Therapy Center, the practice she co-owns in West Philadelphia, just kind of happened.

Rashatwar, now 31, endured an abusive relationship in her early 20s. After college, she started volunteering for a domestic-violence response team, an experience that showed her that she enjoyed working with other people who had lived through traumas.

“All of my work is to better understand what I’ve experienced,” said Rashatwar, who graduated from Temple University in 2011. “It’s almost like I’m healing younger versions of myself by trying to find language to describe what happened.”

As the fat-positivity movement has gained momentum, so, too, have debates around how fat folks should lead healthy lives. Rashatwar, though, considers how sizeism is affected by racism, misogyny, classism, homophobia, transphobia, and ableism, and she counsels people against intentional weight loss.



She pointed to the work of the artist-activist Ashleigh Shackelford, who has written that wearing clothes from the boys’ section growing up, when many items for girls didn’t fit, altered how Shackelford experienced gender. Rashatwar, who noted that people may perceive feminine bodies as more masculine if they’re fat, feels similarly about her upbringing. Being big and being the eldest child, she said, made her feel less like a girl growing up.

Her perspective, one of a fat South Asian nonbinary person, has gained enhanced notoriety through Instagram, where she often posts telegram-like advice to the account @thefatsextherapist. Last July, she celebrated 4,000 followers. Today, her follower count approaches 20 times that.

She posts her advice in colorful blocks of text (“your body is an heirloom," “do you consume porn with bodies that look like yours?”) and then expands on those concepts in the captions.

Rashatwar traces contemporary fatphobia to colonial brutality and how enslaved people were treated. Citing researcher-advocate Caleb Luna, Rashatwar said curing anti-fatness would mean dismantling society’s foundation: “I love to talk about undoing Western civilization because it’s just so romantic to me.”

MORE: https://www.inquirer.com/news/sonalee-rashatwar-fat-positivity-body-acceptance-sexuality-therapy-20190703.html

So move to the middle east and see how "romantic" that would be.

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JanetS Jul 2019 OP
Gunslinger201 Jul 2019 #1
Nostrings Jul 2019 #2
Solesurvivor Jul 2019 #3
Lowrider1984 Jul 2019 #4
Tovera Jul 2019 #5

Response to JanetS (Original post)

Mon Jul 8, 2019, 11:10 AM

1. Somebody named Rashatwar wants to end Western Civilization



In other News Pope is deemed Catholic, water is wet, Sky is Blue

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Response to JanetS (Original post)

Mon Jul 8, 2019, 11:28 AM

2. A dem voter?

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Response to JanetS (Original post)

Mon Jul 8, 2019, 12:08 PM

3. If fat heifers such as herself worked to lose weight and not put said energy into

the "body positivity movement" she'd be thinner.

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Response to Solesurvivor (Reply #3)

Mon Jul 8, 2019, 12:13 PM

4. But

STILL ugly!

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Response to JanetS (Original post)

Tue Jul 9, 2019, 03:35 PM

5. I'm shocked to see her espouse such an opinion...

...said no one who has ever seen her.

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